What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is violent or aggressive behaviour within the home,

involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.


The facts on domestic violence.

On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an

intimate partner in the United States.

During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.

1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical

violence, by an intimate partner within their lifetime.

1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence,

by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner

during their lifetime, to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed

that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.

On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic

violence hotlines nationwide.

The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of

homicide by 500%.

Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.

  Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an

intimate partner.

19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.

Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and

suicidal behavior.

Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical

care for their injuries.

1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and

90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.

Victims of intimate partner violence lose a total of 8.0 million days of paid

work each year.

The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $8.3 billion per year.

Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs,

due to reasons stemming from the abuse.

Between 2003 and 2008, 142 women were murdered in their workplace

by their abuser,  78% of women killed in the workplace during this timeframe.

Women abused by their intimate partners are more vulnerable to contracting

HIV or other STI’s, due to forced intercourse or prolonged exposure to stress.

Studies suggest that there is a relationship between intimate partner violence

and depression and suicidal behavior.

Physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have been linked

with intimate partner violence including adolescent pregnancy, unintended pregnancy

in general, miscarriage, stillbirth, intrauterine hemorrhage, nutritional deficiency,

abdominal pain and other gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders,

chronic pain, disability, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as

noncommunicable diseases such as hypertension, cancer and cardiovascular diseases.

Victims of domestic violence are also at higher risk for developing addictions to alcohol,

tobacco, or drugs.


What does God say about

domestic violence?

The most important person's opinion on any matter is God's.

Most physically abused people are always very concerned about

what God has to say, about their abuse.

I was one of those people, who sought the answer for years and

finally found it.

So, let's get started.

1. God did not create people to be abused. God created people to

respect him and others.

A. Genesis 1:26-27

"And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness:

and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the

fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over

every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created

he him; male and female created he them."

B. Hebrews 12:14

"Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall

see the Lord."

C. 1 Peter 2:17

"Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king."


2. What is the root cause of abuse?

The devil.

The Bible tells us that God is love.

1 John 4:8

"He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love."

Jesus tells us that the devil was a murderer, from the beginning.

"Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do.

He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth,

because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh

of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it."   (John 8:44)

Jesus tells us that satan comes to steal, kill and to destroy all humanity.

John 10:10

"The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy."

The bottom line is that all abuse originates from the devil.

The other fact is that the abuser acts out the devils desires, and out

of his uncrucified flesh.

Abuse is an adult temper tantrum.

Abuse is the result of not getting one's own way, and taking it out on another.

Abuse goes against God's commandment and law of love.

John 15:12

"This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you."

God has commanded we consider others more important than ourself.

Philippians 2:3

"Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of

mind let each esteem other better than themselves."

God has commanded mankind to not kill.

Exodus 20:13

"Thou shalt not kill."

The abuser has broken this commandment, for abuse is the onset of murder.


God sees all domestic violence.

Hebrews 4:13

"Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight:

but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with

whom we have to do."

Jeremiah 16:17

"For mine eyes are upon all their ways: they are not hid from my face,

neither is their iniquity hid from mine eyes."


God hates domestic violence.

Malachi 2:13-17

"And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears,

with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the

offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.

14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between

thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously:

yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit.

And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take

heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one

covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed

to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

17 Ye have wearied the Lord with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have

we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the Lord,

and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?"


God's soul hates the abuser,

who loves violence.

Psalm 11:5

"The Lord trieth the righteous: but the wicked and him that loveth

violence his soul hateth."


God punishes the abuser

Nahum 1:3

"The Lord is slow to anger, and great in power, and will not at all acquit the

wicked: the Lord hath his way in the whirlwind and in the storm, and the

clouds are the dust of his feet."

Proverbs 11:21

"Though hand join in hand, the wicked shall not be unpunished: but the

seed of the righteous shall be delivered."

Psalm 140:11

 "Let not an evil speaker be established in the earth: evil shall hunt the

violent man to overthrow him."


God wants to deliver you

from the abuser.

If you deliver the abuser out of the consequence of their sin,

you will have to do it again.

Proverbs 19:19

"A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him,

yet thou must do it again."


You must allow God to deliver you,

from the abuser.

Psalm 72:14

"He shall redeem their soul from deceit and violence: and precious

shall their blood be in his sight."

Psalm 18:48

"He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above

those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man."


What does this deliverance look like?

A. God desires to seperate you from the abuser, for abuse is sin and darkness.

Genesis 1:4

"God divided the light from the darkness."

You must seperate yourself and your children from abuse, and seek safety.

You must remain loyal and consistent in your relationship with God; by

reading the Bible, by going to Church, and seeking Godly counsel.


B. God desires that the abuser would repent and be converted.

Acts 3:19

"Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out,

when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord."

The abuser must submit themself to God, acknowlege their sin and need for change.

The abuser needs to undergo Christian counseling and reformation.


C. The result.

If the abuser completes Christian counseling and the Counselor has prescribed

the abuser as being reformed and safe, you may choose to return as a couple,

and enjoy the miracle of a transformed relationship - that continues with Christ.

Luke 17:3

"Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him;

and if he repent, forgive him."


You may also choose to divorce the abuser, as God wants all men to live in

peace - not fear.

Galatians 5:1

"Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and

be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage."

Proverbs 1:33

"But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from

fear of evil."

2 Timothy 1:7

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and

of a sound mind."


Can you re-marry?


Abuse is never the fault of the victim, no matter "The Story."

God is against and hates the divorce, where one mate divorced the other;

for another.

This is an abomination to God.

Matthew 19:9

"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for

fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso

marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."


My Recommendation

Take time to heal from domestic violence.

It is not a quick recovery, but it is a recovery for those who continue in

Christ, and the Word of God.

You will never choose the right mate, as long as you have the twisted

mentality that you deserved the beatings, and the wrong that has been done to you.

Allow Christ to tear down the places within you; that need to be

rebuilt - in truth.

When this process is complete, you are then able to see clearly;

what a Godly mate is.

Choose carefully, slowly and wisely; as God hates violence and

desires for you to live in peace and joy within;  A life of abundance.

John 10:10

"I am come that they might have life, and that they might have

it more abundantly."


Enjoy Your Journey

Ann Elizabeth

RealOron Founder & President

Reference: The Holy Bible (King James Version)

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